Am I lucky? Or I am just trapped… Quite often people say to me: "I just want you to be happy" or, which is really scary for me: "I just want to make you happy"... Every time I hear something like this it rings a bell inside my head which means my “security” alarm was activated…
Someone may say (and even become bridled up!) how can I be so ungrateful (in their opinion), and that I am very lucky, and should appreciate those who are willing to do whatever it takes to make me happy. And how can I not take advantage of it? And why I don’t want to be happy? And why I don’t want him, or why I don’t want some things… And… And many more.
Well, guess what? I am not interested in this kind of stuff any more. I have decided not to buy into this “happiness” any more!
But it was not like this before – I used to think the way those people do for years. I used to live 
this kind of “happiness” countless of times. And countless times it led me to “unhappiness”. Why? Because it was not a REAL happiness. Because at that point of my life I didn’t know what real happiness means and where to find it. It took me years, but I have finally found the way!
this kind of “happiness” countless of times. And countless times it led me to “unhappiness”. Why? Because it was not a REAL happiness. Because at that point of my life I didn’t know what real happiness means and where to find it. It took me years, but I have finally found the way! But let’s have a look at what can happen…
If we let people (or things) make us happy, we, and our happiness will be depended on them - on those things and those people who “make” us happy. If those people (or things) are present in our life our happiness will PROBABLY last. But what happens when they are gone, for whatever reason? You know, people just leave or move or die… Things break down, get old, get lost… Or whatever the reason is that they disappear. Than we become unhappy, and - consciously or unconsciously - we start looking for someone (or something) to fill in the “gap” which was created after the person (or thing) has - let say in general - gone. This is the never ending story. An ongoing process. Kind of vicious circle. It goes on and on and on… Until we make a conscious decision…
But coming back to my question, well, I think I really am lucky. Because at some point in my life I have realised what real happiness is. And where to find it. And that it is only myself who can make me happy. And nothing and no one else.
So, dear all, I really, truly value your presence in my life. I really appreciate you enhancing my life. And I am grateful for all your gifts and for all those lessons you teach me. But please don't waste your time trying to make me happy. I think you would do better if you concentrate on your own happiness instead.
You don't have to be, do or have anything to make me happy. Believe it or not: I am happy already. Truly happy :)
Gaby
